Author: chickidea

misscherrylikesthediscourse:

capitalfixation:

darlingkuma:

“dont give homeless people money, buy them food!!”

… okay but what if they need like idk… literally anything else? a bus ticket? toothpaste?

just say you dont trust or like homeless people & go

I don’t trust anyone, don’t take it personal.

I don’t think they give a fuck about your trust issues though, I know this might be hard to grasp but this is not about you.

a-king-named-lear:

wrath-the-furious:

cowlicklesschick:

One time one of my coworkers was talking about his daughter (who was only 5-6 at the time) and how he was already worried about boys, etc. once she got older. He wasn’t one of those dads, who would quite literally hunt down a teenage boy with a shotgun over some backseat shenanigans. He was just a concerned dad.

He asked me what my dad used to do to scare all of the boys away from me, or to at least make sure they were good to me.

My answer?

Example.

My dad never once said, “Katie, if a boy hits you, make sure to bring him back here so I can make him pay.”

Instead, my kind, gentle-soul dad expressed anger and utter contempt for men who beat their wives (and vice versa), and has never in his life raised his hand against me or my mother.

My dad never once said, “Katie, don’t go out with a boy who’s rude to the waitress.”

Instead, my father has treated every single server we’ve had throughout my entire life (except the rare ones who were rude first) with respect and courtesy.

My dad never once told my brothers to get up and offer the pregnant lady their seat on the subway.

Instead he was the first one to stand up, and smiled proudly when his young sons copied him when 2 other women boarded.

My dad didn’t raise me to only make good decisions when he’s there looking over my shoulder. He showed me what to look for in a man, not by preaching at me or declaring that he was the perfect mold. But his treatment of others (esp women) is the foundation for my standards when it comes to men.

So, parents, you want to make sure all of those Bad Apples stay away? Step one is to demonstrate what a Good Apple looks like, up close and personal.

Because if you’ve taught your daughters to respect themselves enough to have high standards, there won’t be any need for you chase any Bad Apples away. Your daughter will take care of that for you.

well, it has. This is true

This… doesn’t sit right with me. I’m not saying parents shouldn’t provide good examples for their kids. My dad is a great role model and I hope my brother will follow his example. However, it’s totally possible to have good parents and still find yourself in an abusive romantic relationship. Saying that if you just teach your daughters to “respect themselves” and have “high standards” they won’t get hurt is victim-blaming, pure and simple. You can’t always tell a “bad apple” is rotten from the outside, and abuse can happen to anyone. Provide a good example for your kids, yes, but also make sure they know what abuse is and how to recognize it. Let them know that they can always come to you if they’re scared, to talk about anything. That way, if they’re in an unsafe situation, hopefully they’ll come to you instead of blaming themselves.