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why is “hate breeds more hate” a bad thing to say?

lookatthisfuckingoppressor:

Oh so many reasons.

1) it equates the anger of the oppressed to the hate of their oppressors.
2) it blames oppressed groups for their oppression. Bigotry doesn’t exist because people hate bigots. It exists because oppressed people oppose it. It exists because of bigots and because of privileged folks being complicit or tacitly condoning systems of oppression.
3) it’s fundamentally untrue. Hatred of oppression doesn’t lead to more hatred; it leads to progress.
4) it is used to attack any attempt by oppressed people to obtain liberation. Point out that something or someone is repulsively racist and all of a sudden you’re “breeding more hate”.

It’s a fundamental misrepresentation of reality that blames victims and excuses fucked up behavior.

i actually attack the concept of happiness. the idea that – i don’t mind people being happy – but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in western society, which is fear of sadness. it’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleep”, and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. we’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position – it’s rubbish. wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say “quick! move on! cheer up!” i’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness”. ask yourself “is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is.

hugh mackay  (via cenobiteme)

It’s Whatever: therapy sessions in sephora

fashinpirate:

    • what are things you do to feel pretty
    • what are things you do to feel safe
    • what are things to feel powerful
    • what are the relationships between these things
    • are they all the same things or are they the opposite 
    • can you tell me about the sacrifices you have made to feel one and not the other 
    • can you tell me about the first experience of shame you felt about a pretty experience
    • can you tell me how a failure of prettymaking gave you shame or maybe pride
    • can you tell me about who taught you what pretty is
    • can you tell me about your most important ugly 
    • can you tell me about your ideal form
    • can you tell me about your nightmares
    • can you tell me if they are twins
    • can you tell me if you are ready to have them meet for lunch and maybe make out
    • what is more important to you the method or the result
    • can you imagine doing things exactly the opposite way and are you prepared to see the results of perverting your pretty 
    • are you ashamed
    • what are you ashamed of 
    • how do you feel when you take off a thing or put a thing on
    • can you be ashamed and proud at the same time all the time forever isn’t it exhausting 
    • why 

email me answers to whatever questions you wanna if you ever wanna: arabelle@fashionpirate.net 

It’s Whatever: therapy sessions in sephora